Getting it on by yourself can help you get to know your own body better, experience the satisfaction of the big O, or just help you fall asleep after a long day. We’re setting shame and embarrassment aside to reveal the top 10 tips to blow your own mind.
So get comfy, turn on some great music, and settle in to give yourself some self lovin’.
1. Try some lube.
It helps keep things slippery and that can help you feel more aroused and feel more pleasure.
2. Don’t make orgasm the goal.
Focus on what feels good, the sensations in your body, and allowing yourself to be totally present in the moment. Self-pleasure doesn’t have to end in orgasm. It can be satisfying and soothing to touch yourself in ways that feel good.
3. Explore toys.
Haven’t been able to get there with your hands? Consider trying a vibrator or another toy. It can be a whole new experience!
4. Change up your position.
If you normally lie on your back, try it on your side. If you usually relax in your bed, try it during a bath or shower. Mix it up for different sensations.
5. Explore your own fantasies.
Think about what turns you on and play a scene out in your mind to get in the mood. Need some help? Consider feminist porn or erotic books.
6. Find some privacy.
Sometimes to really relax, we need to feel like we have the place to ourselves. Consider times in the day when your place is empty, when everyone’s asleep, or where you can lock the door.
7. Try edging.
Bring yourself close to orgasm and then stop. Continue until you feel you can’t take it anymore.
8. Remember to touch other parts of your body.
Think about what other parts of your body it feels good to touch – your chest, butt, tummy, inner thighs – whatever feels good to you.
9. Make it a spectator sport.
If you have a partner, consider allowing them to watch, if that feels comfortable for both of you.
10. Just do it (if you want to)!
If self-pleasure is something you’d like to explore, do it! Try different strokes or touches, different pressure and different places. You just might get to know your body in a whole new way!